Thursday, April 12, 2012

Reader's style challenge - how to avoid a too mature look

Reader's requests and challenges are amongst my favourite blog topics, and the one recently submitted by Susanna via a comment echoes similar questions I received per email

Dear Maitai,

I love your look and have been trying to incorporate silk scarves in my outfits. They look very chic and youthful on you. I feel they are ageing me, even when I wear them with current trends. Do you have any tips or thoughts on this? I seem to have the same issue with other classic accessories (pearls!) that I adore.

Thank you,

Susanna

Many thanks for the great challenge, dear Susanna!

In my view, one of the most important aspects in avoiding a too mature look, is to steer away from appearing too 'made up'. One of the easiest ways to avoid this, is to opt for casual wardrobe staples in combination with silk and pearls (leather jackets, jeans, t-shirts, or items in bold colors/prints). But, more structured or classic wardrobe staples can easily be dressed down too, which is why I chose a white shirt for this (probably first in a series) episode. To add to the fun, I decided to accessorize with a scarf AND pearls.

The key for dressing any look down is to add unexpected elements, while maintaining balance and harmony (more thoughts on this in a recent post: Formal to informal - a business wardrobe)

Teaming up the white shirt with corduroy jeans and an ethnic belt adds an instant twist. Putting on a man's watch has the same effect, while the cardigan is easy and neutral enough to swing either way. Wearing the shirt with an open collar and scarf in a loosened up tie-knot gives an easy going and relaxed appearance. In terms of shoes, ankle boots add an edge, while moccasins or ballet flats give a further casual touch.

The above is instantly deconstructed when replacing the corduroys with a pair of  jeans (which can be further emphasised by opting for a pair of canvas sneakers, or well worn flats)

Changing the jeans to a more formal pair of grey flannel trousers adds gravitas to the look. Keeping the belt is the key to avoid a too mature impression. Adding whimsical bracelets would be another great option to shift the balance. The pearl necklace felt just too much, so I replaced it with simple pearl studs.

Capsule pieces: Cardie by Mango, white shirt by Anne Fontaine. Corduroy trousers by Somewhere, jeans by 7 for mankind, grey flannel trousers by The Kooples.
Scarf: Hermès 'De Madras à Zakynthos' 90 Carré
Scarf tying method: tie knot
Accessoires: pearls, ethnic belt (a similar belt can be bought online here), clic H bracelet in marron glacé (Hermès)


For all who enjoyed the recent posts on layering, you can add a light trench coat to keep warm, while knotting the scarf in a cowboy knot or basic slide (wound once around the neck beforehand), or wear just the shirt for a cooler version, while lowering the tie knot (or switch to a low criss-cross knot)

33 comments:

  1. This is so pretty and I love the soft colours on your DMAZ.

    May I add that the different length ends of the scarf add further to a more casual appearance. I wear a lot of knit dresses and find them the perfect smart casual attire and scarves make a stylish addition which hopefully don't age me.

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    1. So true re the different lengh ends.. it's only a small detail, but definitely tweaks the look into more casual. The knit dresses sound lovely too!

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  2. Dear Maitai,
    You do it so beautifully, I am in awe. Thank you for sharing such stylish tips and ones that are easily adopted.

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    1. Many thanks :) It is so lovely to hear you enjoyed the post.

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  3. Great post, I'm about to hit the big 40 this weekend and often wonder if my H scarves are aging, but like you I like to wear them informally and with more contrasting pieces. What can I say, I've always been a scarf girl!

    Some of the new colourways that H are bringing out are also fantastic stand outs that in no way can be misinterpreted for being too old!!! Your own attitude to age is also a big part of it, don't you think?

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    1. Happy, happy Birthday my dearest msT! Hope you had wonderful celebrations, and a most special and beautiful birthday <3

      Like you, I believe there is always a way to incorporate the things we love into the different stages of our lives. Attitude is definitley the most important ingredient, as well as making a few adaptations as we go along. My next big b-day will be in 2013, and I fully intend to rock my scarves during the second half century of my life too ;)

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    2. I love the belt. Could you tell me where i can purchase or order it. I'm is miami,Fl

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    3. http://shop-hoffnung-berlin.de/index.php?route=product/product&path=4_43&product_id=53

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  4. This was a great question and something I think we all want to avoid as we try to dress smartly. I like smart, casual layered dressing and getting it right can be tricky.
    Your advice and the photos, as usual, fantastic.
    How do you always look so good?

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    1. So glad you enjoyed the challenge, your comment echoes so many emails I received on this topic. Re your question, you should see me when I get up in the morning ;)

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  5. What a lovely way to start the day! Thank you for one more lesson on style, my dear MaiTai. As you, I love this kind of posts.They are so inspiring! It is amazing how small pieces can change a whole look. I liked the idea of the belt. Never thought about it before. Sending you Spring hugs and wishing you a happy weekend, Manuela

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    1. Thank you my Dearest! I just love tweaking a look with one or two changes, and see what the effects are. The belt is a life saver for those moments when you like an outfit, but it just feels too put together. Hope you had a great weekend, and wishing you a wonderful week ahead <3

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  6. Wonderfull post you look fab as always, this is one of my concerns my scarfs age me but i will follow your lead and leasons and hopefully will look half as good as you do wearing yours

    Best ladyjane963

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    1. My dear ladyjane, it is wonderful that we can share our thoughts here, many thanks for letting me know which type of posts address your concerns and interests. Will definitely continue with this topic :)

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  7. Super challenge ans superb solution dear MT! I think this is something we all struggle with at times! You look beautiful as always in your variations on a theme ! I love every look! ITA with ladyjane ....will follow your tips and hope to look half as good as our fearless leader! Thanks for the inspiration,MT! Hope you have a lovely weekend, T xx

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    1. Totally agree with you on the challenge, my dearest Trudye! The thoughts and questions shared in our little chat corner give me so much inspiration, and the happiest moments are when topics are resonanant. Have a most wonderful week ahead! Much love x

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  8. What a great post, MaiTai! I always love your outfit suggestions. I've been asking myself the same question about scarves. For what it's worth, I think maybe the color palette of the scarf matters - I've noticed that scarves with a lot of gold tend to age me, which is not the case with either colorful or neutral scarves. I'm curious to hear what you may think about that.

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    1. My dear SophieG, this post seems to have triggered more like minded comments than any other, I think it's time to open a club! The current scarf trends makes those designs with a lot of gold look less fresh (at least for the moment), so it is a little bit more challenging to wear these beauties without falling into the mature trap. This presents a wonderful new challenge, many thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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  9. Very nice, dear MaiTai! Yes, I agree, it's about adding a little unexpected to the outfit to keep it young and fresh looking. Your belt is one to envy! I also think that turning the cuffs up on your shirt adds a more youthful vibe too. Beautifully done, dear.
    Warm hugs,
    CS

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    1. Thank you, my dear CS! And so true re the cuffs, I often do the same things with the sleeves or my blazers. Life is full of unexpecting things, so our outfits should be too ;) Hugs right back x

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  10. Great post! But I'd like to add that no matter what you wear, if you have helmet-hair and wear heavy make-up you are always going to look more 'mature'
    (nice euphemism). Maitai has beautiful, natural and soft looking hair in a simple do and she goes easy on the make up. Even in granny-pants she'll still look fabulous and fresh.
    Marimekko-lover.

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    1. Don't know about the granny-pants (unless by Marimekko, perhaps!). I agree with you on the make-up though. Re the hair, I am often guilty to let it dry just by itself, but then there are always pony tails to save me...

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  11. Such a lovely and informative post dear MaiTai! I love the way you suggest subtle changes that have such an impact overall.

    Apologies for not having commented on your recent posts; life here has been rather busy. However, I have loved catching up with your posts and have enjoyed them all, especially the formal - less formal ones, which I found very enlightening.

    Hope you are having a lovely weekend and enjoying the spring!

    Melusine x

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    1. Welcome back, dear Melusine! So nice to hear you enjoyed catching up with the last posts, many thanks for the sweet and lovely comment. Have a wonderful(and hopefully less busy) week ahead! x

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  12. Great tips, but I have to suggest that what really makes one look youthful is slim hips! And MaiTai has that (as well as a youthful face :-))
    Still, an inspiring post.

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    1. PhoenixGirl, glad you enjoyed the post. The challenge though was not about 'how to look youthful', but how to avoid a mature look when adding a scarf to an outfit. I hope the three looks (and in particular the last collage, where the face/hips can't be seen) demonstrate that appearance is a question of styling, rather than depending on the shape of a particular body part.

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  13. My dearest MaiTai,
    What a wonderful topic! - thank you to Susanna and to you dear MaiTai for your wise and inspiring solutions. There are so many elements that contribute to the tone and the flavors of a 'look'. Of course, yours is always fresh and so elegant with a touch of magic - eternally beautiful. With utmost admiration and much love to you always xxx

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    1. My chère Scarf Enthusiast, it makes me so happy that you enjoy exploring the nuances with me <3 Love your description of flavors and tones, it reminds me so much of the process of cooking. With affectionate love, as always x

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  14. Dear MT,
    Although I agree with everything you've said, I truly think that body shape overrides everything else (even for younger people)! Most of us simply can't look like you! We can only admire! Love your posts!

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    1. Many thanks for the kind compliment. The point of the post is not to try to make everyone look the same, but to illustrate how different accessories effect an outfit in different ways... these principals can be applied to all shapes and sizes, resulting in a huge variety of individual looks :-)

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  15. Wonderful topic! By "steer away from appearing too 'made up'" - do you literally mean not too much makeup on the face or do you mean something else like being too matchy matchy, etc.?

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